Adentro
Posted on Monday, July 13th, 2009 at 10:29 pmJen: First, I am not receiving email alerts of your comments. This is odd. As a blog administrator I should be receiving email alerts of all posts. Have you altered a setting that might prevent email notification of you posts? It’s a mystery.
Second, FMH is balking. While I was at the house I picked up an FMH document that was on the desk. I got another in the mail. Both are telling me that FMH needs a CPT code for the treatment I am getting at Serenity. FMH said so directly when I called today. Mary Jane has not been too helpful; I had to find out for her what a CPT code is (Current Procedural Terminology). Unless I get the issue resolved in the morning I will not be seeing her tomorrow.
Third, Ellen needs more guidance than she’s getting. I sent her an email today. You should take a look at it. It includes links to alot of math and algebra. Ellen can do it all. She can work through it by herself. She can call me if she’d like. She can call Mattie or another friend if that would help her. But she needs someone to check her progress daily.
Fourth, Adentro is the name of the blog I made for Guido. Check it out. There are some nice pictures of Guido, Antonella, Jorge, and the house.
Fifth, I hope you are taking care of yourself, letting the professionals take care of your dad, and setting good boundaries between you and anyone who might take advantage of your people pleasing nature. I hope you’re doing that because I’m not. In fact, why don’t you do twice as much – do my share of self-care.
It’s raining or I’d go out for a walk. And I need a walk. I know I need a walk because I got the munchies right after dinner. That’s a sign. That’s a sign I’m unsettled. Munching is a self-soothing behavior.
What do you do for self-soothing? Romantic comedy and Ben and Jerry? What else?
Joyce, today, challenged us to imagine what we really wanted, and to practice doing so whenever we thought something we didn’t want was in our way. This suggestion she offered after I asked her to tell us how to deal with the problem presented at check-in. [Now, I’m self-soothing here by prattling on, but I’m also taking her suggestion and imagining what I want – a little quiet time with you.] Anyway, at check-in one of the other fellows was complaining about his new girlfriend and how she had turned the bathroom light on but hadn’t turned it off before coming to bed. How big a deal is that? Not so big. But maybe you can imagine something small getting in the way of a happy thought. Maybe you can imagine something small getting in the way of making the image of what you want one of your core beliefs. Well, I hope you can imagine what you want. And I hope you get it.
Good-night.
David
David: I started to respond to this comment when I wanted to go back to read something I posted earlier for reference…I hadn’t hit the “submit reply” button and I lost what I wrote…but it started something like this:
Hello Mr. Self-Proclaimed Often Wrong Foley! You are incorrect. I believe you set up the blog site so that it always launches to the pretty home page…that’s where I land…where I go first, then to the Site Admin page to review recent comments.
Regarding the emails…I really don’t want to redirect emails that are coming in to you…”bids” is one I recall that comes just about daily. Do you still want to be the main reviewer of foley2@earthlinke.net? Or, are you asking me to do more? Let me know one way or the other as I just don’t want to double up the work of email box maintenence.
I called your post “potent” because it was so sexually charged! Less than thought? It was more of a “what’s he up to this time?” thought…all those emails from the same places over and over…your curiosity is one quality I like about you…that’s why after some thought I posted that really, what’s the big deal? I’m just asking you to manage your emails in the inbox since it is a shared area…and wishing I was as curious.
Action: Angry thoughts toward David for subscribing to daily emails that I know nothing about and have to wade through.
Intent: Help me out here, David. Need some input, guidance on using the Action/Intent/Belief model.
Belief: He’s not going to follow through.
Blame: I like the article from Wikipedia and find it fitting that Honesty and Accountability follow your week of working on Blame. The moral responsibility of Blame (according to how I understand the article) is Accountability. When is your homework due?
You have blamed me for things that weren’t my fault…one that comes to mind is when you cut yourself on a glass cup that broke while you were washing it. You blamed me for buying the glass cup. Was that my fault?
Went to the funny website…it was amusing, but didn’t fine the clip about nipple tape?!?
Got to go to sleep now. It will be difficult for me to post the next couple of nights…after work, I’ll be doing yard work one night and prepping the birds the next…so sit back for a while and relax.
Jen
PS: Operator error on the italic…only thing I really wanted to emphasize is when your homework is due?
David,
First: No, I have not altered any settings that would prevent you from getting email alerts. Still a mystery.
Second: FMH – Did you get the issue resolved? Is there something specific I can do to help?
Third: Ellen – I will ask her about the email. I believe I posted that she and I will be looking at the WPH site…we’ll have time to do that this weekend.
Fourth: Adentro – I like the name. Visited the site…was good to see the photos and nice to see that you sent Guido photos of Ellen and I, that he posted.
Fifth: Boundaries and Self Soothing/Self Care – Yes, I am setting boundaries. Example: One night before I was getting ready to go to Atlanta, my Mom called anxious about staying alone…she was coming down with something…wanted me to come spend the night…I told her no, I couldn’t…I had to get ready to leave and get ready for you to be at the house. She had calmed down by then, but I thought it was a good step for me. With my Dad, I’m in and out…Sue and Mom are meeting with the Docs…passing on the info…I don’t call the nurses desk…tonight I did stay with him late (Ellen spends the night at Mattie’s on Tuesdays and goes to an Al-Ateen meeting) as his room was being changed and it was important that he not be in a room with a self-closing door because of a machine he is on through the night…I think it is very similar to what your Dad wears for sleep apnea…anyway, if it beeps, the nurses need to hear it. As soon as he was moved, I came home…but, it was late. I am glad to be able to help.
Self-soothing: Ben & Jerry’s and a romantic comedy is always good…soaking my feet…checking out the food blogs…and yes, munching.
Jen
Jen: Can we move forward? Can we move the blog forward? I’m guessing, but I think you’re logging on to the blog, going to the admin page, and replying to the most recent comment – without ever looking at the Home page. The Home page is prettier. But, of course, the comments are prettier when composed in the admin window.
Anyway, you can redirect emails to specific mailboxes or junk by going into Mail preferences, clicking Rules, and creating a rule for emails coming from specific addresses, or containing a specific word in To or From address or even in the subject line or content. That might make things easier for you.
FMI – For My Information – What less-than thought were you having about me in regards to the email-jam and the ‘potent’ post? What was the intent you were hiding by letting me know you had a thought you weren’t sharing? What belief did you have that allowed you, permitted you, gave you the right to act on your intention to show that you were hiding something?
Regarding the ‘potent’ post … I don’t think I ever blamed you for anything that wasn’t your fault, did I? Well, just the same, you’re late. And that IS your fault. Tough break. But you can still give me input on next week’s assignment – Honesty and Accountability. You can take my inventory, if you want. Or, you can give me a little of yours. I’ll attach a blank Equality Wheel.
Oh, just for laughs try this website. There’s a funny clip about nipple-tape, but, unfortunately, no mention of oxytocin.