Bigger World
Posted on Saturday, November 14th, 2009 at 8:11 amHi David:
You said in counseling that you wanted to live in a “…bigger world.” Correct my memory…I remember “…cooking dinner, gardening, working on the computer, things around the house…living in a bigger world.” This sounded positive to me…was it? When you said it, it didn’t sound separate, even when I could imagine that some of the “bigger world” activities at times would be. So, am I off base, on target? Tell me in the post, or in person.
Jen
When my spouse or child needs to talk, do I give that person my attention as soon as possible?
I do. I do also get busy and distracted. So, I’m not available at every moment. And I do want time undisturbed. Still, I do think that if Jen or Ellen came to me and said that need time, I would find it.
When talking to others about my activities, do I often find myself discussing things I do with my family?
No.
Would I turn down added responsibility (on the job or elsewhere) if my family needed my time?
Yes.
How would my spouse and children rate me?
Hmmm …
When we are in the midst of a dispute, do I find myself regretting that I married my spouse?
No, when I find myself in the midst of a dispute, I find myself regretting being in the midst of a dispute.
Do I often daydream about being with someone other than my spouse?
No.
Do I sometimes tell my spouse “I’m leaving you” or “I’m going to find someone who appreciates me”?
No.
Do I view th money I earn as ‘all mine’ since I am the one who earned it?
What money?!
Do I keep my distance from my spouse’s relatives, even though he or she is close to them?
Yes.
To relax fully, do I need to be away from my spouse?
Yes.