Re: Harbor House: I’m not working on any paperwork at the moment. I’ll know more about the process for dismissal after I talk with an advocate on Tuesday…I’ll post what I find out. J
Jen, you’re free to write me anything at anytime. I am often here or nearby. And I like contact. And I wait for it. I’m waiting for honest, responsible contact. If you’re ready for that at eight this evening, I will get back to you as soon as I am back from the beach. David
Glad the owl house is going up…Atlantic Center for the Arts – I’m jealous…I’ve always wanted to go there…I hope you have a nice time with Dr. Camm there and on the drive.
Silent…needling…raging…ignoring…quite a mix…as someone I know (Elizabeth) says…life is messy…I never like that when I hear it…guess I’d rather ignore it…but I’m learning that ignoring doesn’t clean things up or help to fix whatever is broken.
Before your post, I was going to ask you if you are still reading the daily Courage to Change…I am…and I thought I would get it and see what it said for today…it does seem to relate:
…Instead I have learned that feelings aren’t shortcomings. The true nature of my problem was my stubborn refusal to acknowledge feelings, to accept them, and let them go. I have very little power over what feelings arise, but what I choose to do about them is my responsibility…
Trust: Remember when the VISA card was denied? You told me that your first thought was that I did “something” to stop you from using the card…my first thought was that you did “something” to stop me from using the card…I quickly…and I hope you did to…let that thought go and told mysel I just needed to call the credit card company to find out what was going on…a verbal agreement is a good place to start rebuilding trust.
Well, I’m going to sign off now…of course, feel free to reply. D8nite still on tonight? 8 pm, then…with a candle?
When you meet with the Harbor House advocate ask if a ruling on the motion will require a hearing. I would be very surprised if it did not. If there is to be a hearing, Morris will have to respond or attend. That will cost money. To avoid that cost requires asking him to resign as counsel. Before I do that I need better communication from you. I need to know what you’re doing and when you’re doing it. If you have some paperwork that you’re working on, please send it to me. If you intend to submit something to the judge, I would really like to know at least a week before hand.
The hole is for the owl house. It still has to go up.
New Symrna is where the Atlantic Center for the Arts is.
Your dad is the silent type. Your brother is the needling type. I’m the raging type. You are the ignoring type. Just think about it and I’m sure you can come up with some ideas about how one person makes the other responsible for fixing whatever is broke.
What kind of agreement do you want? A court order? A written contract? A verbal understanding?
Yes…the blogging is the big event…I am anxious and at the same time looking forward to talking with you face-to-face. I did go by the courthouse last week to find out about dismissing the Injunction. I have to go back and meet with a Harbor House advocate to submit the paperwork, then it goes in front of the judge and an answer takes 3-5 days. I will do this sometime next week…I do want a different agreement then “wide open” in place…so we all have a some idea of what to expect.
What’s the hole for? What’s happening in New Smyrna?
What are the “other ways to force a partner to make up for whatever is left undone.”
October fifth is what I have for week twenty-six. But I think No Abuse has me down for September twenty-eight. I can check on the fourteenth – no class on the seventh.
No, I haven’t talked with Joyce … not since I talked with her. The only time I’ve talked with her about marriage counseling was when I first enrolled. At that time I was told to wait until it was over. So, I’ve been waiting. But I quess I can call her next week.
D: I posted the Air Handler notes under its own heading. I can blog for about another 40 minutes…so if you want to respond to the air handler notes later…that’s fine. What are you doing today? J
Still working on my air handler notes…I’ll get back to it. No photo…drats…she looks good. Permission to go to a game…sure…next week 9/11 is an away game in Ocoee I believe…then on 9/18, a home game…I’ll submit the request on Tuesday for both dates. Too, there is a website that Mr. Moody (band teacher) posts to weekly that you’ll be interested in. charmsoffice.com; once there under Parent/Student Login, type: winterparkhsband; then under Student Password, type: clarinet. This will give you ongoing information about what’s happening in band.
While I’m working on my air handler notes, can you tell me if you have talked to Joyce about being our family counselor? And/or what advice she gave you…I’d like to get that appointment on the books after you “graduate” from BIP…what is your final class date? J
Understood. The ‘game’ is all that. Still, football is the center piece. This morning, with that in mind, I went online to see what scholarships are offered to the kids in the band that invest so much time in the celbration of football. Google MIT and band scholarship. MIT has a ‘spoof’ marching band. It looks like some real geek fun.
Too, the whole celebration of football gives me an opener to BIP’s discussion this week on the ‘silent’ partner, or the partner who’s interpersonal tactics require everyone else to ‘pick up the pieces’, or do the emotional work, or do the problem solving. Discussion focused on the Guy who’s silence forced the Gal to poke and prode to get the Guy to reveal what was going on inside. Of course, there are other ways to force a partner to make up for whatever is left undone.
Last night I saw it as so much more than just about football…a little independent time…enjoying the company of friends…being silly…the conversations I overheard were funny and at least last night rather innocent…”when is your birthday…my birthday! I always remember your birthday…yada yada.” The group wave through the stands, etc…so, I’m going to type up the short story of the air handler…give me a few minutes.
Football. Involveall. Cotillion was more fun for me. Though I did go home hoarse after every game. Cheering on all the towel popping teasers from gym class.
No…they don’t spell SERENITY at all! I’m just a goofball! The other thing about the game was that it was nice to see so many kids having a good time together.
I should have…your Mom had a small pair and I did spot her…they were on and off the field so fast…Ellen told me the routine will get longer as the season plays out. WPHS won the game and at the end, the football players come and stand in front of the band while the band plays the WPHS “theme” song…apparently it’s been the same song for years so you will recognize it…I thought this was really nice. It was interesting to be in the midst of all those young kids and think: “…was I really ever this young?”
Re: Harbor House: I’m not working on any paperwork at the moment. I’ll know more about the process for dismissal after I talk with an advocate on Tuesday…I’ll post what I find out. J
Good…I’ll log at 8 pm…and wait for you. J
Jen, you’re free to write me anything at anytime. I am often here or nearby. And I like contact. And I wait for it. I’m waiting for honest, responsible contact. If you’re ready for that at eight this evening, I will get back to you as soon as I am back from the beach. David
Glad the owl house is going up…Atlantic Center for the Arts – I’m jealous…I’ve always wanted to go there…I hope you have a nice time with Dr. Camm there and on the drive.
Silent…needling…raging…ignoring…quite a mix…as someone I know (Elizabeth) says…life is messy…I never like that when I hear it…guess I’d rather ignore it…but I’m learning that ignoring doesn’t clean things up or help to fix whatever is broken.
Before your post, I was going to ask you if you are still reading the daily Courage to Change…I am…and I thought I would get it and see what it said for today…it does seem to relate:
…Instead I have learned that feelings aren’t shortcomings. The true nature of my problem was my stubborn refusal to acknowledge feelings, to accept them, and let them go. I have very little power over what feelings arise, but what I choose to do about them is my responsibility…
Trust: Remember when the VISA card was denied? You told me that your first thought was that I did “something” to stop you from using the card…my first thought was that you did “something” to stop me from using the card…I quickly…and I hope you did to…let that thought go and told mysel I just needed to call the credit card company to find out what was going on…a verbal agreement is a good place to start rebuilding trust.
Well, I’m going to sign off now…of course, feel free to reply. D8nite still on tonight? 8 pm, then…with a candle?
When you meet with the Harbor House advocate ask if a ruling on the motion will require a hearing. I would be very surprised if it did not. If there is to be a hearing, Morris will have to respond or attend. That will cost money. To avoid that cost requires asking him to resign as counsel. Before I do that I need better communication from you. I need to know what you’re doing and when you’re doing it. If you have some paperwork that you’re working on, please send it to me. If you intend to submit something to the judge, I would really like to know at least a week before hand.
The hole is for the owl house. It still has to go up.
New Symrna is where the Atlantic Center for the Arts is.
Your dad is the silent type. Your brother is the needling type. I’m the raging type. You are the ignoring type. Just think about it and I’m sure you can come up with some ideas about how one person makes the other responsible for fixing whatever is broke.
What kind of agreement do you want? A court order? A written contract? A verbal understanding?
Yes…the blogging is the big event…I am anxious and at the same time looking forward to talking with you face-to-face. I did go by the courthouse last week to find out about dismissing the Injunction. I have to go back and meet with a Harbor House advocate to submit the paperwork, then it goes in front of the judge and an answer takes 3-5 days. I will do this sometime next week…I do want a different agreement then “wide open” in place…so we all have a some idea of what to expect.
What’s the hole for? What’s happening in New Smyrna?
What are the “other ways to force a partner to make up for whatever is left undone.”
Back.
Today I’m digging a hole. This afternoon I’m driving Dr. Camm to New Symrna. But this blogging is the big event.
Nature calls…back in a few minutes.
October fifth is what I have for week twenty-six. But I think No Abuse has me down for September twenty-eight. I can check on the fourteenth – no class on the seventh.
No, I haven’t talked with Joyce … not since I talked with her. The only time I’ve talked with her about marriage counseling was when I first enrolled. At that time I was told to wait until it was over. So, I’ve been waiting. But I quess I can call her next week.
D: I posted the Air Handler notes under its own heading. I can blog for about another 40 minutes…so if you want to respond to the air handler notes later…that’s fine. What are you doing today? J
Still working on my air handler notes…I’ll get back to it. No photo…drats…she looks good. Permission to go to a game…sure…next week 9/11 is an away game in Ocoee I believe…then on 9/18, a home game…I’ll submit the request on Tuesday for both dates. Too, there is a website that Mr. Moody (band teacher) posts to weekly that you’ll be interested in. charmsoffice.com; once there under Parent/Student Login, type: winterparkhsband; then under Student Password, type: clarinet. This will give you ongoing information about what’s happening in band.
While I’m working on my air handler notes, can you tell me if you have talked to Joyce about being our family counselor? And/or what advice she gave you…I’d like to get that appointment on the books after you “graduate” from BIP…what is your final class date? J
Got a photo of Ellen in uniform? With the big hat? Going give me permission to go to a game?
Understood. The ‘game’ is all that. Still, football is the center piece. This morning, with that in mind, I went online to see what scholarships are offered to the kids in the band that invest so much time in the celbration of football. Google MIT and band scholarship. MIT has a ‘spoof’ marching band. It looks like some real geek fun.
Too, the whole celebration of football gives me an opener to BIP’s discussion this week on the ‘silent’ partner, or the partner who’s interpersonal tactics require everyone else to ‘pick up the pieces’, or do the emotional work, or do the problem solving. Discussion focused on the Guy who’s silence forced the Gal to poke and prode to get the Guy to reveal what was going on inside. Of course, there are other ways to force a partner to make up for whatever is left undone.
Last night I saw it as so much more than just about football…a little independent time…enjoying the company of friends…being silly…the conversations I overheard were funny and at least last night rather innocent…”when is your birthday…my birthday! I always remember your birthday…yada yada.” The group wave through the stands, etc…so, I’m going to type up the short story of the air handler…give me a few minutes.
Football. Involveall. Cotillion was more fun for me. Though I did go home hoarse after every game. Cheering on all the towel popping teasers from gym class.
No…they don’t spell SERENITY at all! I’m just a goofball! The other thing about the game was that it was nice to see so many kids having a good time together.
Eventide is nice. I think I’ve posted it before in a post to Ellen. You might be able to save them all to iTunes. That’s where I have them.
I should have…your Mom had a small pair and I did spot her…they were on and off the field so fast…Ellen told me the routine will get longer as the season plays out. WPHS won the game and at the end, the football players come and stand in front of the band while the band plays the WPHS “theme” song…apparently it’s been the same song for years so you will recognize it…I thought this was really nice. It was interesting to be in the midst of all those young kids and think: “…was I really ever this young?”
No. Do they spell Serenity? Mary Jane gave them to me. Steve Halpern.
Did you take your binoculars to the game? Were you able to follow Ellen on the field?
Too bad…just listened to Eventide…nice…are these songs you compiled to spell out Serenity?
No. There’s a regular drip coffee maker.
Wow…do you have a french press there?
No. I’m on my third cup.