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Todays Reminder (from Courage to Change pg.181)

Today I will acknowledge that I have many positive qualities, and I will share one or two of these with a friend.

“All progress must grow from a seed of self-appreciation…”

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Since we are both reading Courage to Change, I thought I would blog a little about one of the daily readings…I decided to blog about today’s…whatever it said.

The first thing that came to mind when I read the quote …a seed of self-appreciation…” was what you wrote about your idea of forgiveness and self-inflicted vengence: …I’ll give you the freeze-dried abbreviation of my idea of forgiveness – it’s the same as vengeance, but you do it to yourself. Self-inflicted vengeance, in other words. No one I’ve talked to likes the idea. But none of them have gone to jail.

If I’m understanding you correctly…in other words…you are saying…a person should think to themselves: everything starts with me. This makes it a very 12-step (yet, possibly unpopular) concept: vengeance is about pain and forgiveness about being free of it. Although, you can have one without the other…I understand the dichotomy of the concept…I see how they can work in tandem.

So a positive quality to share….mmm, I’ve made a cup of tea, have started a piece of toast…and find myself back here staring at the screen. I can think of positive qualities about myself…but I can’t seem to think of them alone…without going to their flipside…the negative…but I’ll give it a try.

Positive Quality #1: I am nuturing

Positive Quality #2: I am flexible

Will you share two of your positive qualities with me?

Hope you have a good day, David. Off to start mine.

Jen