Busy

Posted on Sunday, June 21st, 2009 at 8:06 am

5 days of work, 2 days of prepping food, 2 days of sorting food and cleaning trays, 1 day of some sort of house cleaning, 2 days of meetings, 1 day of yardwork, 2 days of wellness center, 2 days of food shopping, 3 days of helping at my folks, 2 days of laundry, 1 day of meeting with sponsor, 7 days of working the program…how many days did the Beatles say there were in a week?! Yes, I am busy and when the end of the night comes, my mind has shut down and doesn’t have the acuity required for proper blogging…or maybe this is all BS and I am avoiding blogging, commenting, posting, responding. When you said that …you know I must be busy… I instantly interpreted that to …I’m (you) not important enough for your time. There I did it…the thing I told you I am trying not to do…I assumed…I ran that through my assuming translator…and I know why…it’s what I have asked myself in times when I was just too tired to do one more thing, including blogging …isn’t this important to you (me)?…don’t you make time for what’s important?. Then I tell myself that my recovery is important…doing the next right thing is important and sometimes that is simply going to bed. Well, you are important to me. We’ve shared 20+ years, we have a super daughter and we both want things to go well through this…even the difficult things. It’s hard to say my biggest culprit to blogging is not having time…it’s more a matter of shifting time. I read all of your homework posts this morning, really fast. I’m glad you’ve been able to reveal yourself to yourself. You helped me do that in my life and it made a difference to me…to unpack my past…discard some things, refold others, give-a-way a bit, cry over some of it, and make room for my future. I lived in my past for a long time…that was one thing I did bring into our marriage…I can tell you from experience that it feels so much better to live in the present…your homework suggests that you are on your way. Thank you for sharing it.

Off to cut fruit and change trays.

I am still glad that you are the father of my child. Happy Father’s Day.

JT

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17 Responses to “Busy”

  1. David says:

    Remember, today is fruit day. More importantly, Ken is distracted. Ellen may have told you, as I told her, the other Foleys had two burglaries while they were away at the beach. So, he may forget you.

  2. Ellen says:

    DW: I look forward to reading them all.
    “What is not helpful?” Oh, just forget those comments…I was hearing you make fun of me and I didn’t like it…no need to re-blog. That one was all on me.
    Sue came down by herself…second time in the past couple of months…Gillen is in London on a trip through school/theater class…I called her and Mike to ask them if they could consider coming down for a long weekend each and they did. And, yes, she cooked…tortillini salad with grilled steaks…she has the touch…all was delicious. Ellen put together dessert…little tart cakes piled with strawberries and blueberries topped with Greek yogurt (really thick)…you might like this kind. I call Sue the kind Nurse Rachett…she can get my Dad to do things in a way few of us can…she’s focused and right on the money. My Dad’s recovery is extremely slow and has been riddled with complications, Parkinson’s, C-Diff (gone now), diarrhea, low blood pressure, constipation, catheter, my Mom’s insecurities and fears, his own frustrations, very little mobility…he’s patient and sometimes mean…Mom freaks out but is gaining confidence. Early on they hired people to help and still have a woman named Lutan there from 9-2 each day, then Chris and I take turns at night (I have Tues/Thurs) and on the weekends to help Dad through dinner and into bed. His upper body is good and so is his appetite overall. I have had an opportunity to witness some of my character defects in my Mother…will save them for another post…soon…now I’m off to dreamland. Good night. JT

  3. David says:

    Ms. Jennifer:

    Oh, yes, you are very strong!

    I have really just got the form of the resume fixed. I am thinking that I’ll create maybe four different resumes: one, husband; two, home-school teacher; three; egg-hatcher; four, publisher. I’m tweeking the husband resume as we speak.

    David

  4. Jen says:

    Post 3:59 pm made me giggle. I have Courage to Change, too…so, we’ll be reading the same thing each day. That’s nice. So, I was a little strong earlier? I’d be happy to read your resume if you like.
    JT

  5. David says:

    Jen: After all that “are-you-are-you-not” I nearly missed the meeting. I found it. The topic was Sex. A little tense. Only guy. Allan didn’t show. I sat through the last half of the meeting. One woman hustled me out of a few bucks for Courage to Change. I was vulnerable. The group didn’t have a copy of the fourth step book. David

  6. David says:

    Jennifer: I see now how to get the hypertext editor before submitting a comment. If I click the Edit button for the Post, I get to the Edit page and all the comments appear on that page. If I click on the reply button of a comment, up pops the hypertext editor. That’s cool. Thanks. David

  7. David says:

    No. I’m not having a pity party. But I don’t think you’ve missed the point – imagine a resume with little more on it than house-husband, homeschooling dad, bird-breeder, annual publisher of community art fest guide, and see where your mind races at a snail’s pace. Yeah, it’s been a very rude awakening for me, Jen. But it’s not a pity party. I’m tweeking my resume. Not mentionning I got fired from the husband and home-schooling positions. Doing without references. I’m adjusting my sites. And I’m doing online tutorials. But thanks for the pat on the back. I’ll take it. And another. If its available. Maybe lower. And to the right.

  8. David says:

    What is not helpful?
    You win. Tables. Tables would work better for your resume.
    What do you mean try your comment blog again?
    Is Sue cooking?
    Gillen there?

  9. Jennifer says:

    DW: This is not helpful. Yes, I did set that document up screwy. Are you using tables by chance? Columns? Please try your comment blog again. Jen
    PS: We’re off for a while…Sue is in town helping at my folks…Ellen and I are going to visit and have dinner.
    JT

  10. Jennifer says:

    Are you having a pity party over there…lowly house boy, home schooler, and hatcher of eggs?
    Teach me something so I can pat you on the back and you can get on with things.
    JT

  11. David says:

    Well, I would definitely like you to go to the noon meeting.

    I’ve used your resumé as a guide in creating one for myself. You did your resumé using InDesign. And you created a seperate text box for each section of text – making a BIG job for the ole EYE meter. There IS a better way. But if you want to know what it is, you will probably have to give me something. If I can teach you, creative director, something, then I should have something special. What do you have to offer? Of course, you are permitted to quess at my solution to perfect resume alignment, and if you quess correctly, there is no need to negotiate a price. But if you can not, what would you offer me, most lowly house boy, home schooler, and hatcher of eggs?

  12. Jennifer says:

    David: I won’t be going to the 4th step meeting. I would like to know what you think of it, though…I am interested in that.
    Thanks for letting me know about MAB…I have missed the noon meeting.
    Jen

  13. David says:

    Jen: Yes, I want to give that Al-Anon meeting a try, if you’re not interested. I told a guy named Allan I would meet him there tonight, before checking to be sure you were not going. Now that you’ve said you’re not going, I don’t have to call him to bail out – I’ll go.
    MAB I am chairing Tuesday nights in July. I’ve decided I will not be going there for the noon meeting. David

  14. Jennifer says:

    Comment #3…even better: No, I don’t.
    (Are we communicating now, or what!)

  15. Jennifer says:

    Comment #2…a better…less assuming response:
    No, I don’t go to that meeting…why do you ask?

  16. Jennifer says:

    No…haven’t been to that one…but I heard it was good…Al-Anon…right? Is this a meeting you want to attend? When do you go to Made a Beginning?
    JT

  17. David says:

    Do you go to the Sunday evening 4th step meeting in the church beside Colonial High School?

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